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How do I attract the right relationship for me?

by | Dec 9, 2021 | Insight, Relationships | 0 comments

I always attract losers!

In other words… I seem to settle for partners who have low self-esteem or who treat me poorly or both!

Why are relationships so hard??

They never used to be, in the olden days. At back then least staying together was easy. You just did it. No matter what. It was expected you stay together and great shame followed anyone who didn’t. So even if you were married to a loser, that was that. They were your loser for life.

In the modern era we want to have our cake and eat it too. As we should! We want to be in relationships that bring us joy and if we marry we want to marry for love and have that love last. Too often however the love doesn’t last. And the modern addiction to relationship roulette kicks in. Let’s give the wheel another spin, see whether this next relationship is any easier or any better.

The secret is we attract in a similar type of relationship each time. That’s how we get stuck in repeating relationship patterns.

Why does this happen? Because they are a mirror for us. We can only attract in what we’re ready to receive.

This is why the first step to attracting our dream partner is to work on ourselves first.

Every relationship issue can be tracked back to a source within ourselves. And this doesn’t mean we need to blame ourselves or feels guilty or shameful. Quite the opposite. This is incredibly empowering news. Because anything we can own, we can control and change. We can become the magnetic attractor for the relationship we’ve always wanted. Mr Right, or Ms Right, here we come!

Are you ready to level yourself up so you can attract in the next level of lover? Great! We want to help you get there.

About the author

Andrew Ramsden

Founder Peak State and host of Alpha Geek Podcast

Andrew Ramsden is a speaker, trainer, coach and podcast host specialising in digital and technical leadership.

Andrew founded Peak State to help organisations keep up with the ever-changing world around us.

He has a particular passion for leadership development, especially helping technical professionals level-up and unleash the great leader within.